It's All About the Journey

I'm trying my best to run chronologically in the series of dates. This one is a real doozie. I have a theory about information on your online dating profile. Make everything positive. You can mention that you have faults, because who doesn't? You can even talk about them, but don't make it sound like your life is falling apart because of your imperfections. The goal is to accept yourself before you start trying to attract someone else to accept you. I should have known that red flags were all over this guy, let's call him Ray. He was tall and had this smile that made my heart smile. Beautiful teeth and gorgeous skin and dimples. He seemed really compassionate and his profile mentioned that he helped care for his developmentally delayed brother. What's wrong with this guy? There has to be something. His profile says that he's in the healthcare field, and he mentions that he's temporarily living back at home. Okay, we all have rough times, so I didn't ta...

I've officially gotten all through my past adventures in the online dating. Now we can get to the recent stuff. My goal is to post at least one blog a week because there's only so much dating a single mother can really do and material for a blog is scarcer than one might believe. There are so many...normals out there. Just downright nice, friendly, not scary or weird or crazy at all men. So, kudos to the men who don't end up here. I openly post my blog link on my online dating profile, with the information that no names are given in my blog. I change them to protect the innocent (and the creeptastic). So, this blog gets to the material that caused my dear friend to suggest I start a blog in the first place. That was about two weeks after I opened my OKCupid profile for people to see, so we all know that the insanity started pretty quickly after I started dating. With that said, here goes. The next few posts I'll dedicate to just the stuff that happened before I even...

Disclaimer: This post contains opinions that could (will) be offensive to most creationists. If you a Protestant Christian, you shouldn't read this unless you are cool with people who disagree with your religious beliefs. That said, this post is about one of the first people I met online. I think it was his eyes that got me. Kevin was a large man. I mean enormous. He was every bit of 6'5" and nearly 300 pounds. I'm a tall girl, 5'9" and at that time, I weighed in at about 180, but this guy made me look petite, tiny even. He was almost a redhead, but not quite and his eyes... His eyes were bright blue with just a few flecks of green and gold, shaped like what I imagined fairy eyes would be, elongated and tilted up just a tiny bit, with lashes so curly they almost spiraled in on themselves. This whole story is still a little hard to tell because for some reason, I feel guilty about it. Like everything was my fault. I made some really stupid decisions, but th...

This blog is for one of the ones that I think got away. We'll call him Joe. I "met" Joe on Plenty of Fish and I liked his combination of bronze skin and beautiful bone structure. He was added to my Sexy Bald Men List from the moment I saw his scruffy, tan face and his soulful, dark eyes. Joe owned a comic book shop in a town just across the Alabama line. I know! I'm such a nerd that the thought of an equally nerdy guy was just what I was looking for. Joe was seven years my senior and so intelligent that he made me look rather ordinary. His sharp wit and tendency to tease me as relentlessly as I tease all of the people I like (I flirt like a middle schooler) just made him more attractive to me. We would talk on the phone for hours. He sounded like he was from Alabama, but in a sexy way. I know, that's a hard combination to imagine, but he was southern, yet articulate, and his deep voice and that laugh that came from down in his soul were incredibly sexy. We tol...

This blog is about the first online date I went on. That was before I started carrying pepper spray and a tactical pen with me on first dates. If the phrase "tactical pen" doesn't mean anything to you, click this link and stay protected. I was freshly single after a relationship that had lasted a few years and I wanted to try something new, so I joined a site called Plenty of Fish. Back then, it was pretty much the best free dating site out there because it was user-friendly and had some neat options. Now it's kind of just a meat market. I posted a few pictures I thought were good and checked that box beside "a little extra" when asked about my body type, and typed up a nice self-summary to see if I could lure in a man worth dating. I had a few hits that for whatever reason just never panned out before I was approached by a man in his early 40's. You read that correctly. I was 23 and he was 43. His pictures were unimpressive. He kind of looked li...

This whole blog is a suggestion from a good friend, and as I love to write, I think I'll take him up on it. I mentioned some of my adventures in online dating and they apparently make good stories, so I'll recount one a post for your amusement. I say for your amusement, but let's be honest here. I think that if I write this blog, two things will happen: instead of this whole process turning into a powerful monster that has control over my self-esteem, writing about it can help it become instead, a catharsis for me and also a hand out to all the other people out there who are getting back into the dating world and feel alone. You are not alone. And you aren't the only one that has had some crazy. So, I guess a little background is important. I'm 27 and a single mother of a small child. I worked my way through college and (thank goodness) I'm finally in a place that the money and the time are somewhat equal, and maybe, just maybe, there's enough money that...